Everyone is saying there is piss in the dating pool. It’s because they aren’t being courted correctly and I don’t know who to blame! Is it social media? Is it a lack of fathers in the homes? Girl, either way courtship is dying and we gotta stand up.
Even dating older men doesn’t guarantee that you will be courted correctly cause they don’t wanna act their age (hence why they’re dating your young ass). We as a society might be doomed but you can get as close as possible to your dating type by finding Moon, Venus, 5th house, or 7th house synastry.
I met a Gemini. Always a great start to a story.
I get the pleasure of telling you all that 3rd house synastry is hilarious. His Sun sign (Gemini) was lighting up the 3rd house in my birth chart. This is the house of communication, siblings, and early development or curiosity. We got comfortable super fast which I kinda love but it was more in the sense of homies instead of lovers. We met at the club when I was trying to make my way to the bathroom to check my makeup. I grabbed his hand and gave a quick lil twerk cause tequila told me to do it. His way of courting felt like we were just hanging out. The biggest issue though, is that we bickered so bad like siblings over small things. We were at his house watching TV on the couch, he asked me to go get him a blanket, I said no. He comes back balled up in a comforter trying his hardest to make sure not a piece of it touches me, so I scoot over away from him cause I never cared and grabbed a pillow to lay on. Then he snatched the pillow away from me! Doesn’t that sound like some petty sibling stuff?
The best dating, or courting experience I’ve ever had was with a Libra man. We had 7th house synastry, which is the house of partnerships, commitment, and all things relationship-oriented, so of course it felt like magic. Everything flowed so effortlessly between us. Our first date wasn’t even a date, it was a full-on romantic weekend experience. It started at 3 p.m. on a Friday and didn’t end until 7 p.m. on Sunday. We did dinner, went out to the club, hit Six Flags, and had a ball! I genuinely felt seen, spoiled, and like someone finally understood the assignment. But of course, in classic Libra fashion, he was out here spreading that same princess treatment to all the girls. A lover boy for the collective, smh.
What I’ve learned so far is that I’m not the super lovey dovey type. I’m actually kind of tough on men, I don’t tolerate the BS at all. I need someone who’s attentive, spontaneous, outgoing… someone who shows me off, spoils me, but can still be goofy with me. This whole experience has been eye opening, though. I might be failing, but I’m doing it successfully!
This is what I want, wbu?
Okay but seriously, getting someone’s full birth chart when you just met them isn’t always realistic. But asking for their birthday? Definitely a normal first date question. Even just knowing their Sun sign can give you a sneak peek into the vibe and potential synastry.
Check where their Sun lands in your chart:
- If you’re looking to be spoiled, wined and dined like a sugar baby, look for 2nd or 8th house synastry.
- If you’re here for the fun, flirty vibes and romantic chaos, 5th or 11th house synastry is where it’s at.
- But if you’re thinking long-term, something deep and secure, keep an eye out for that 4th or 7th house connection.
And hey, if the spark lasts past date three, that’s your cue to casually slide in the “what time were you born?” convo and get the real tea. Good luck out there, happy dating, and hang in there bookie, you got this!
